I am disabled with fibromyalgia and am legally blind. How can I get people to stop to -
07-27-2010, 10:54 PM
It seems everywhere I go, people want to grab my arm and "assist" me. I step onto the bus and first thing, someone grabs my arm with a lobster hold, setting off my nerves with shooting pains. It happens all the time. I use a long white cane and am fully capable of walking (though I do stumble thanks to poor balance). I get around just fine, going shopping and to doctors' appointments and school, but people seem to assume that grabbing a blind woman is appropriate and helpful. In truth, it just makes things worse. Once I was gabbed by the arm while crossing the street, and I ended up in the middle of the street disoriented because that person that grabbed me set off tremors and shooting pain.1
So, my question is: How can I get people to understand that I cannot be touched, that it hurts me to be grabbed and sometimes even a light touch is bad. My boyfriend understands and we have a sort of understanding that when I can be touched I let him know, because I do have decent days that allow for a hug or something.
I thought about getting a t-shirt that said "Do not touch" or "If you can read this, you are too close," but I think people would ignore it or think it's a joke, and I can't wear the same t-shirt every day!
Please make serious suggestions...I really don't need answers like "Just let them help" or "Too bad for you, sorry but you are SOL."
Ideas and suggestions would be greatly appreciated, thank you!
~Jewel
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