[Blondeshavemorefun]

I'm not going to give you a hard time, but I am going to say this: You have indicated that you want to keep the baby. I understand that your family maybe furious with you (or even "disown" you). But that is not a good reason to follow through with an abortion. Their anger, I am sure, will disappear in time, but having an abortion will be something you will have to live with forever. Having a child is hard work, I know I have 5 children. And being so young makes it harder. Like I said I have 5 children and I'm a full time college student. It can be done! You are the only one that can make the decision, but please think it through, both long term and short term. I also suggest you let the father take part in the decision, if he wants to have this child and you don't, you won't be the only one who has to live with it forever!

[Stephanie K]

y'all don't be like that shes going through a lot. Yes, she should have not had sex but don't judge her like that. Try to sit down with your mom and briefly tell her that you may be pregnant. And you should find an adoption agency.

[sexichicka91]

Im 19 and I'm pregnant. I also am having an abortion, its not right for me and my partner at this time and was an accident. We are both not prepared to have a child right now. We would rather have our own home, and be really financially secure before bringing a baby into this world.
With the first person who answered, saying your a murderer and just give it up for adoption. No wonder we have such a teen crime rate in this world! Because young girls get people like that who crap on about God and God's will etc, I'm sorry but its wrong. If you are not ready for one, then have termination. Its hard, scary and you feel all sorts of emotions. But bringing a baby up in this world without much financial help and solid feet on the ground you aren't giving him/her the best in life!

Google Family Planning Clinic like that other person said and take a good friend that you trust or your boyfriend. If you dint want to tell your mum you dint have to, but I'm sure she was 16 once. She might be understanding, and might give you alto of support. Be wary though that Clinic's can cost alto to have a termination. I wish you nothing but luck and hope everything turns out for the best.

[tiinkfreak!]

Please consider adoption before you consider abortion. Just because you made one mistake doesn't make it right to make a bigger mistake. Once you have an abortion you can't take it back, it's final. If you consider adoption the child can have parents that care for him/her and you can choose to have contact or not. Your family will probably find out some how. They will respect you more for considering adoption then abortion. You can go to WNW.projectcuddle.org for help. It's free and they are there 24 hours a day to help you. Please don't consider abortion!

[cacheadvertising]

Dont have an abortion
i got pregnant at 16 too
its hard but i dont regret having her
she is the best thing that happened to me
its a gods blessing

[Rabin R]

I have no personal experience with teen pregnancy but I know you must be going through a rough time right now but before you decide anything you need to tell your parents!! I don't know you or your family but I'm sure your a nice girl and I'm sure your parents love you very much. You can't go through what you're going through alone. Yes it is going to be difficult telling them but in the end they are going to be there for you. And you definitely need to tell the father if he doesn't know already. Also there were a lot of "ifs" in your explanation so you need to go to a doctor and figure out if you are in fact pregnant before you do anything else. If you are not then just be more careful and cautious next time you think about having sex. If you are pregnant you need to tell your parents and your boyfriend. I can't imagine how scared and confused you must be right now but seriously you will feel better if you tell someone rather than keeping this secret to yourself. Every teen parent in the world is always scared out of their mind to tell anyone that they are pregnant. It is going to be hard but having people to support you in whatever decision you make will make it slightly easier. Also you could consider giving the baby up for adoption. But whatever you choose to do don't ever think you are a bad person for having sex or getting pregnant. It was a mistake and it happens but this is to big of a mistake to handle alone and you need your family to support you, or a trusted friend. Don't try to deal with this on your own. Good Luck with everything and whatever you choose to do just make sure you completely think it through.

[DramaGuy]

If you go to a teen clinic, they can give you a pregnancy test and if you are you can discuss your options with them.if you aren't they can offer you free birth control without parental consent. Good luck and if you want to talk my email is sweeEtxangelxgrl@aol.com
if you are positive about your choice of an abortion,depending how far along you are I'd suggest the abortion pill..best of luck

[sue]

You'd be surprised how parents change their mind when the baby's finally here. You might also be surprised that your mom would be more supportive than you think. She might be shocked at first but might really give you the support you desperately need right now. You won't know until you try, and at your age, I think you need your parents. You don't know that they really will disown you. Give them a chance.
By the way, there's plenty of people out there who are dying to be parents (myself included). This would be such a gift to give someone, if you cannot parent yourself. Think about it, please before you make that decision. Good luck and God bless you.

[Jess M]

Hello, I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant also so I am not going to tell you what to do or what not to do. I would like to say that this is a time in your life that will pro bally effect you in some way or another for the rest of your life. The decisions you have to make will feel like your heart is being ripped out, then put back in. I know you know what I mean.

Lets look at your options:
1) keep the baby with or with out boyfriend. Tell mum and she will pro bally be a bit disappointed at first but you are her daughter and this will be her blood. If she does not support you there are many organizations that you can turn to for support and assistance.
2) abortion is a big decision and moving on with your life after the event will pro bally require counsel ling due to your comments in the post. I don't feel that you could just forget this and move on without it effecting you. I may be wrong.
3) Adoption is a wonderful gift for you to give. It will require you to proceed with the pregnancy and would have to give your baby to someone after birth. This does have its downfalls and you will need counsel ling to help you get through this as well, but you have given a couple the greatest of gifts.

Telling your mum is a Reilly good idea as you will need someone no matter what you choose and a mothers love is what you really need at the moment. Just choose a moment and say it, just get it out. She may freak out but I am sure you would love your mum to wrap her arms around you and give you a great big hug right now? Consider your culture and family values and their love for you, ask yourself would they really disown me, or just be really disappointed?

If you would like any information on any of the things I brought up email me and I will be happy to discuss it with you further.

Good luck on your journey, and get a pregnancy test, from the chemist to check if you are or not....

Mel