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Default How to console someone who had a miscarriage? - 12-24-2008, 11:22 AM

My friend, that I have known for 12 years had a miscarriage late last year. She only recently told me because it happened about a week after I had a miscarriage. I feel awful for her because now she is convinced she won't be able to have children because of this and some other problems she has had. How can I console her-I knew she was depressed but I couldn't get her to tell me why. She is still struggling with her loss, and I just want to help. She has never been one to talk about her problems or emotions, and it's really tough to try to get her to express anything. I love her like a sister and all I want to do is help her. How can I do this?
   
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Default 01-01-2009, 09:56 PM

My mom had 11 miscarriages before she had me. She thought she'd never have children. (The doctor told her so.)Tell her to keep trying!
   
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Default 01-05-2009, 06:10 AM

idk much about it but my mom had 2 misscarriages and now has 3 kids if that helps, good luck !
   
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Default 01-16-2009, 12:49 AM

Bluegirl,My sister has had 3 miscarriages and each have been heartbreaking. All you can do is be their for her. You can't say anything that will make the hurt go away.Don't try to explain it or say......"it wasn't ment to be"that does not help.Just be there.
   
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Default 02-05-2009, 05:41 PM

See how she feels on a daily basis, see if your friend brings the subject up-(if she seems don) maybe you should start the subject-the only thing you can really do is BE THERE FOR HER...Good luck-time will tell...
   
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Default 03-20-2009, 11:32 AM

Don't be overly nice to that person, try to get her to talk about it gently. You could always volunteer to go to the doctors with her and find out for SURE that she might or might to be able to have anymore children.You have my condolences.
   
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Default 03-30-2009, 09:11 PM

Just be there for her bringing it up may drudge up bad memories,Console her by being a good friend and treating her well,and if she wants to talk about it then just have an open and frank discussion,tell her how broken hearted you are for her,but dont attempt to buy her things or anything to make up for her miscarriage,that would be sort of odd.
   
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Default 06-01-2009, 07:46 PM

The last thing she needs is to stay home. My friend had a miscarriage last year too. I took her to a quiet park so she could get a breath of fresh air. I didnt make her talk, she slowly started to come around. I took her like once a week and each time she would talk more. The first time we just sat on some swings like little kids and didnt talk for like 2 hours.
   
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