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Default grieving........? - 12-14-2008, 11:28 PM

I was wondering, What Is the best way to get over greiving? Its been 3 months and I still feel like crap and think of what our child would have looked like and just wondering how It would of felt to feel the baby kicking and stuff.. I would have been 17weeks pregnant... Its just really hard. we tried for 2 years and the thought of the m/c because thier was something wrong or the baby would have probablem I wouldn't care. It just really sucks.
   
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Default 12-15-2008, 05:33 AM

Try getting some real counseling. Its a serious loss that you will never forget. Only time will help heal the loss of a child (born or not). I miscarried and the baby would've been 11 now. Its something you always think of, just try not focus on it.
   
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Default 12-15-2008, 01:04 PM

I'm so sorry you lost your baby. There is hope for the future though.I suggest you try having another one.It wont make up for the one you lost but it might help you to be happy.Maybe you could also use some counceling. Talk to your doctor.
   
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Default 12-17-2008, 12:19 PM

You will never completely'get over'the loss of a child anymore than you will the loss of anyone else. If you have not already, I suggest you see a counselor. They will help walk you through the grieving process. It will always hurt but there is hope and there is a way to move on with your life.Try talking to a grief counselor rather than family and friends as these people have been professionaly trained to handle situations just like yours.
   
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Default 12-18-2008, 02:11 AM

First you cry and cry and cry. Then, you think about the future and try to stay positive. I had a friend that had her baby and within the hour the baby died. She was tore up but she just got into her work. She also sat and cried in the arms of loved ones. Find someone to talk to about it.
   
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Default 12-21-2008, 11:35 PM

The best thing to know is EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON! I had a miscarriage and the same day my husbands cousin had her baby. She was 15 and didnt have any business having kids because she did drugs and drank the entire time... I could not even look at that baby. Well then 6 weeks later I had a car accident and I was almost killed. My stomach had been pretty much crushed like my internal organs... Well I got pregnant like 4 months after the miscarriage. I was so scared.What I am trying to get at is if I would not have miscarried then I would have felt so guilty when I had the car accident because there was no way the baby would have made it. They say the reason you miscarry is because the baby will have SEVERE health issues or could cause you health problems... It is kind of like the baby knew... I know it is hard but dont give up, you will hopefully be pregnant again SOON! Everyone I have known to miscarry gets pregnant within 6 months. I wish you luck I know it is hard!
   
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Default 02-23-2009, 02:31 PM

First off, I am sorry for your loss. Grieving is a personal thing. There are stages you must go through..denial, anger, bereavement, depression and acceptance. You probably will go through these stages in that order. I lost a child at 3 mths, so I understand how you feel. It hurts. We did go on to have a successful pregnancy but I will always consider my first pregnancy to be my first child. I wish you luck and be sure to take care of yourself.
   
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Default 03-26-2009, 09:19 PM

I lost a baby june 19th. I know exactly how you feel. I had to see my baby sitting there. I passed her before i even made it to the hospital. All alone.Yesterday the local womens clinic gave me a book called silent grief by clara hinton. It walks you through the different stages of the grieving process after a miscarriage. It already has made me feel better. Just hearing that there are people out there who have been exactly where you are.As for me, i have yet to find someone who understands why i was/am so sad about losing her. But this book is helping me a lot. I strongly suggest you try to find it.
   
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