[Matt]

We had to put down my dog today, she was very old and very unhealthy. My family and I all believed it was the right thing to do, but now that its all over and done with I feel horrible. I feel so guilty, and like I couldve done more, I miss my dog so much. Any ideas on how to get past the grief?

[Juliah]

getting another one always soften the pain of a passed pet..will nvr replace them but it lets you love again =]adopt one from a shelter.

[Bonzie12]

I just went through the same thing last month and it is very very hard. You just have to cry and let it all out. I know that helped me a lot. also know that you did the best thing for your dog, even though it made you very sad. I found a poem that helped me alot with the guilty feeling of maybe you could have done more. I know that my dogs quality of life was not what she would have wanted it to be and what I did was for the good of my dog. I loved her to death, as I'm sure you did too. Here is the poem and I am so sorry for your loss. Remember all the good times, maybe make a nice scrapbook of her that you can look at. Sorry again and heres the poem. I hope it helps you as much as it did me.FROM FRIEND TO FRIENDYou're giving me a special gift,So sorrowfully endowed,And through these last few cherished days,Your courage makes me proud.But really, love is knowingWhen your best friend is in pain,And understanding earthly actsWill only be in vain.So looking deep into your eyes,Beyond, into your soul,I see in you the magic, that willOnce more make me whole.The strength that you possess,Is why I look to you today,To do this thing that must be done,For it's the only way.That strength is why I've followed you,And chose you as my friend,And why I've loved you all these years...My partner'til the end.Please, understand just what this gift,You're giving, means to me,It gives me back the strength I've lost,And all my dignity.You take a stand on my behalf,For that is what friends do.And know that what you do is right,For I believe it too.So one last time, I breathe your scent,And through your hand I feel,The courage that's within you,To now grant me this appeal.Cut the leash that holds me here,Dear friend, and let me run,Once more a strong and steady dog,My pain and struggle done.And don't despair my passing,For I won't be far away,Forever here, within your heart,And memory I'll stay.I'll be there watching over you,Your ever faithful friend,And in your memories I'll run,...a young dog once again.

[Katie]

The first and best thing you can do is cry (which I am sure you have done already), it'll help clear your head and make you feel a bit better.After that, think of all the good things you and your dog went through, that should help a little with the pain.The grief, like with any death, will pass on it's own over time. The best thing you can do right now is the first two steps I mentioned, and then recognizing that you DID do the right thing by putting your dog down.Best advice I can give. =)Terribly sorry for your loss.

[noitall]

I'm so sorry for your loss -- this is the most difficult part of having a pet and unavoidable as we always outlive them. It does get better with time, I promise. For now just go with the flow - grieving takes as long as it takes - and remember the good times before she got old and ill. I found it helped me to create a sort of little shrine with photos and her things (collar w/tags, sweater). After a few months I put the stuff away and eventually gave it to other dogs that could use it.We never forget them - thankfully - but the pain does heal.

I absolutely agree that getting another pet is the best way to get past the pain. They will not replace but rather"refill"your heart. Please, please adopt, there are so many poor creatures out there waiting for a home. Don't feel guilty, you loved your dog and gave her a good and loving home, you put her out of pain. It is hard but in the long run a kind thing to do.