I am sorry to hear this. I developed anorexia in my teens also although I did not hit my most severe point until I was 17 or 18. In the end, the desire to recover has to come from your daughter. Without that strong will to live and a strong desire to have some enjoyment in life, the issues will just continue. I simply had a deep terror of dying and I could feel I was dying at my worst point (I was 5'11 and just 70 Ibs).I would not blame yourself, although parents can sometimes be at fault through being too controlling. In the end it was her decision to take this route in the first place as a response to whatever was causing stress. Some do recover, some will have issues on and off throughout their lives (I still have very strong desires to be thin and light and have to battle to not slip back again at 33) and some will lose the fight and die.What might help is reminding your daughter of all the things she is missing out on and how silly it seems to be throwing her life away for a number on a scale. Ask her if she is strong enough to beat this thing that is actually controlling her, and just basically try and remind her constantly of all the things she could do with her life and the simple pleasures she is missing out on. You might also like to encourage her to keep a diary if she doesn't already, to write down her feelings.What has helped me in the long run was finding other obsessions, as in the end, anorexia is a deep obsession with food and weight, and it has been linked to OCD and aspergers quite strongly. They have found a fairly large proportion of females with anorexia also had either OCD or Aspergers syndrome. Is there anything else that interests her? With me, I developed a strong interest in a specific science fiction tv show and that became my obsession rather than my weight.I hope she gets better.I can be emailed on
graelwyn@hotmail.co.uk if you need any support or advice.