[critterbeachhome]

My nephew is 8 years old and he is consistatly getting in trouble at school. My sister is ready to give because she doesn't know what to do anymore. She has taken things away from him, she has put him on restriction to the house,etc. Can you please give me some advise that could help. ------

[knk724]

Beat him ------

[indianajones47150]

They could take him to a child psychologist. ------

[Evil Kitten]

I would reccomend having your sister bring your nephew to see his peditrition. My son (now 8) always misbehaved, would not sit still, talked back on a regular basis, and basically thought he ruled the roost. I thought he was just being a rebilious/bored boy. I tried adjusting his diet, participating in more active activities with him...nothing helped. A few years later i decided i could not take it anymore and took him to see the doc. He was later diagnosed with ADHD, showing some simptons of ODD.I am not suggesting that is what your nephew has, but reccomending that your sister speak with his doctor, because the doc will know what is best and how to help. ------

[Anna W]

Try setting up a system where the teacher sends a note on how he behaved each day. Have a group of rewards for good days and excellent days. The rewards should be things he wants. Maybe getting to see a special tv show, going for an ice cream cone, something that is inexpensive. Have a big reward for either a week or a month of good to excellent reports. If he messes up big all priveliges should be revoked either for a day or two. Things like tv or computer time, use of phone. There should be a calender on the fridge that shows each days rating. Ratings shoud be Excellent, good fair, poor. you could use happy, sad ect faces or words or check, check plus, check minus, minus. The key is to reward the good instead of punishing the bad. You should be very consitent. (this is the hardest part) When he messes up just tell him what he loses and tell him how disappointed you are. I have found that making a kid sit in his room with NO toys, tv computer or friends awhile is better than ranting about how mad you are. there is an old video called 123Magic that can be very helpful. Good luck! ------

[shawn]

Maybe he needs a positive outlet for all his extra energy. He could get involved with sports, scouts, 4-H, or something like that. ------