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Default What should I do to help Jessica with her anger? - 12-16-2008, 03:03 AM

Jessica is my 6 year old daughter, who has a lot of angry feelings. She has been through severe neglect, by her father, foster care, returned to the same situation she was removed from, so I was forced to remove her from her fathers care. On top of that her brother was diagnosed with PDD-NOS. I feel that during her stay in foster care she was brushed aside, because of her brothers diagnoses. We are staying at a shelter for women and she seems to become angerier, and more resentfull everyday. She is begining therapy, and I do everything I can to help her but I am afraid that if I can't help her learn to deal with her anger soon she will rebell even more. So any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
   
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Default 12-23-2008, 09:20 PM

I would talk to her therapist and discuss your fears and options.
   
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Default 12-23-2008, 09:34 PM

Sometimes anger management doesn't help.Get her involved with her friends. When she turns 9, get her involved in sports. She can take out her energy that way and not with anger. Softball and Soccer are best.
   
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Default 12-24-2008, 05:14 PM

The best you can do is to pray for her. Prayer works. Sometimes, you won't get the answer you want, but it is the best thing you can do. Maybe if you took her to a child therapist or an anger management group it would help.
   
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Default 01-08-2009, 04:47 AM

I am very sorry for you and this poor little girl. Counseling/therapy is probably the best thing for her. Other than that, all you can do is love her- unconditionally- and let her know she is number one in your life no matter how down and out you are.Good luck to you and Jessica. You are in my thoughts.
   
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Default 01-10-2009, 08:06 AM

be her mother and mother her back to joy... it might take some time but sooner or later she will feel like shes cared for... and when she gets older she should start to be more understanding and less angry
   
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Default 01-18-2009, 01:26 AM

God bless you. Mothers carry so much weight for their children, and unfortunately, we can only do the best we can do for them. How often we feel that is is not enough and blame ourselves.It sounds like you are doing so much for her already, getting her out of harms way, getting her in therapy.I say take care of yourself first, as best as you can (which I believe you are already doing). If you believe in God, try to get involved in some spiritual groups or activities because that will help fill you up in a positive way.I truly believe that right now, you need to do what you are doing and try to worry less, because worry will not help.Keep reaching out to others. Be a good, consistant example of how to live for your daughter.Have faith in the future.You seem very intelligent and caring and I believe the future holds good things for both of you.
   
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Default 01-30-2009, 01:14 PM

Love her and be there for her she is probably very confused and scared right now and doesn't understand why all this happening in her life she is probably angry because she feels as if she doesn't matter but you need to let her know that she does take her in your arms and hold her and tell her how much you love her and if she starts crying just let her cry and cry maybe you both just need to cry together I will pray for your family Good Luck Nd God Bless
   
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Default 07-05-2009, 02:54 PM

She SEEMS to become angrier every day, but that doesn't mean that her anger is increasing, necessarily. I believe it likely that, as her situation is improving, and as she is beginning therapy, that she's SHOWING her anger more openly.This may not be something to be worried about, so much as the initial steps toward healing.Ask her therapist to discuss this with you: should I be worried, what do you suggest I do?I say the best thing you can do is to acknowledge her anger, let her express it non-violently, and allow her the emotional space to figure out how to deal with it.I'm not an expert, have no formal training, no license, nada. I'm just someone who's read and thought about this stuff a lot. Just so you know.
   
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Default 05-23-2013, 10:35 AM

It's only motherly love and patience. You know the reasons and you also know that it would extra efforts to get her out of this problem.

Moreover, don't suppress her anger. Try to listen to her and find a solution to her problems and let her know that solutions could be found without a feeling of anger and frustration too.

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