[caomicc]

Ok so my friend has been upset lately and she does have anger issues, to the point she can be abusive.I'm not worried for my health, but for hers.She refuses to talk to a psychiatrist, and with her sister being in the hospital for suicide attempts and running away, she needs to start talking.What can I do/ should I do. I am one of the only people she will talk to.

[scotgirl60]

This isn't a job for you -- although it's great that you're there for her as a friend.Urge her to talk to a counselor -- that won't be as threatening as talking to a psychiatrist, perhaps.

[Cathie C]

You can plant seeds, make suggestions, but in the long run, you have to step away and let her walk her own road...it is said that when people become uncomfortable enough, they will do what they know they need to do and what their friends have told them to do. It is so true....you can lead a horse to water...but you can't make him drink. When she gets bad enough...maybe her eyes will be open to help...

Its very easy to get rid of anger, there is a trick to it that works every time. When you are angry, try to become more angry telling yourself that you are angry because you want to be and makes you feel good and happy, so when you are angry you want to be more angry because you want to enjoy it. The simple act of trying to become more angry when you are angry so you can enjoy it more, makes you crack up laughing every time and rids the anger. Its when you are angry and don't want to be angry, or try not to be that you become really angry or uncontrollably angry.I actually told this to a client with a history of uncontrollable anger issues, his wife and family wanted him to get help for it but he wouldn't see a psychiatrist. He promised he would try what I told him and the next time I saw him he was smiling and laughing (he usually always had a scowl on his face), and said that it worked. Score one for me

[Marinework]

It is very easy to get rid of anger.