Anger Management, my boyfriend has serious issues and refuses to get help? -
01-02-2009, 08:55 AM
Okay here's the stats: I'm 41, divorced 16 years, 2 kids (ages 21&18), 18 year old son still lives at home.My son works pt at Taco Bell, didn't graduate and is pretty much having fun this summer, negecting his pets and responsibilites around the house.I work 45 hrs a week, take care of the house and pets, and cater to the men in my life. For the most part, I like to keep up the house and cook meals, some help would be nice without me making a fuss about it.My boyfriend (of 2 years), he works a hot job (welder), he would rather sleep or watch TV then do housework. He has no children, he's had very spotty relationships up until he met me. Apparently, I am the longest relationship he's ever had.He has anger issues that at first scared me, but since he knows he has this issue, and refuses to get help (I've even offered to go with) I'm not scared of it, I am angry that he will not get help.Last night my son and I got into a heated arguement because he hasn't been home in days, failed summer school. My boyfriend jumps into the conversation with an attitude because my son was yelling. Next thing I know, my son throws a can of soda in the air, my boyfriend grabs it, and throws it at my son (didn't hit him) in fact my boyfriend said, I was aiming for his legs. My son tries to leave the house, I tell him no, this is all rediculous, my boyfriend was all fired up and I had to hold him back, my son leaves the house and when he did, he punched my boyfriends truck (it's a rust bucket) and my boyfriend goes ape and chases after him down the block. He didn't catch him, but was yelling at him telling him to keep running. I was in shock at all of this. Both of the men in my life have anger issues, I am so stuck in the middle and honestly, now I'm getting it's him or me. I've been told this by both sides now.
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