[cutting_fairy]

My boyfriend is 17 years old. And he has anger problems. He is always talking about killing or hurting other people. He has even broken down to hurting himself. Every little thing bothers him and gets him mad. I'm worried that if he keeps this up that he will hurt me. He hasn't come close to hurtting me but it does scare me. How can I stop this?!

[Clark Kent]

find a new boyfriend!!!..i am amazed how stupid girls can be trying to hang on, and then BLAME HIM for his anger..maybe YOU are the reason..driving him mad..Please, please, get out of his life....Let him live happily..

remember if he ever puts his hands on YOU or says he's gonna hurt/kill YOU, LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE when u have the chance!!!

The problem is - there is nothing you can do yourself to change your boyfriends behavior. As much as you would like to help him (and help yourself), he needs help that you just cannot provide.I was in a relationship for 1.5 years when I was 16/17 with a 18/19 year old who had anger problems. He did not hurt himself but did wind up hurting me. Eventually he went through anger management and claims that it has helped him. He is no longer part of my life, but I know others who went through the same anger management program.What you can do to help your boyfriend is talk to an adult that you trust who will be able to help him. If you get along with his parents, try explaining to them that you care about their son and you are worried about his anger issues. They would be able to get him the help he needs such as anger management or therapy. And it sounds like he has some other emotional issues if he is hurting himself that need to be resolved.I wish I could tell you a magic trick you could do to make him stop but the only thing you can do is seek help from those who know him best and are able to help him. You may even want to try your school councelor or your own parents if you are not comfortable talking to his.All the best...

Umm! That is a problem, history tells us he won't stop being angry until he sorts out what is bothering him.It kinda depends is it just ordinary teenage angst or something more sinister. Has he had a settled, loving&happy childhood?Look back then try 2 look 4ward.17 is a difficult age not quite adult&no longer a child.Drag him 2 the docs 4 a checkup. It's a start.........